Monday 8 February 2016

You Don't Have To Justify Yourself



Picture this, you just had a baby, your first baby, you post a picture on Facebook of the beautiful bundle and there in the back ground.. is a bottle.
Someone leaves a comment "are you breast or bottle feeding?"

Now usually, in a world that doesn't involve parents, people wouldn't even dream of asking such a personal question! "Those boobs, are they your own?" I mean, really? What business is it of anyone else's what you do with your body and the way you choose to feed your child?

Did it cross their mind that this woman might be hurting about the fact she's not able to breastfeed? She could be dealing with some really emotional internal struggles right now - as you so rightly do after just giving birth! - In fact, i'm pretty sure the comment has since been deleted.

Anyway.. The response to this "are you breastfeeding?" came with a "No" followed by "it didn't work out unfortunately" and a whole load of reasons as to why that was.

Now I just thought, if she was breastfeeding, would she have felt like she needed to justify her reasons as to why she was? Probably not...

The Mummy community can often be a very opinionated bunch of know-it-alls to put it mildly, and the outsiders, the people without the kids? can be even worse sometimes!
It's quite daunting to be a new Mum where suddenly people think it's OK to ask personal questions about you and your child.

Just a few other topics that as a new mum - or even second or third time mum, you will find yourself feeling like you need to justify..

Stay at home mum? Working mum? Doesn't matter, you will be justifying yourself either way!

You fed your kids FAST FOOD!??.. Need I say more.

The state of the house "if i can't keep on top of the house, how can I be a good mum?"

When and where your child sleeps? - again as if it's anybodies business..

The groceries you buy - Can I see a share bag of chocolate 'giant buttons' and is that a bag of 'cheesy  Wotsits?' tut tut!

It takes a long time - if at all to become confident in your parenting decisions, but while you're figuring it out, you don't have to justify yourself to me.


Has there been any points that you felt you had to justify yourself? How did it make you feel?
Leave a comment down below!

Anna xx


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